Putting You First – We Must Train Ourselves to Take Care of Us

Putting You First Is Not Selfish

Many people will tell you that putting you first is selfish. You may even believe this to be true. I am not saying ignore others.

What I am saying is that we need to give own goals and desires priority sometimes.  This allows us to move forward as a person. Think of it like this – to contribute to the world and be helpful to others you first need to be the best you can be. If you are unhappy and running around trying to make others happy, never taking the time to focus on your own responsibilities, goals and aspirations, you will suffer…

Give Yourself A Break

Give yourself a break and focus on your own needs. What is your body and your mind telling you? Sometimes we just need to block out the outer world for a bit and listen to our inner selves.

When you live a full creative life with joy and satisfaction, you can grow and develop, and therefore will be able to help others to do the same. There is nothing selfish about trying to be the best version of yourself. It is fine to treat yourself with kindness and compassion the way you treat others.  You should also try and give your best contribution to the world. Manage your responsibilities but also make time for yourself.

Benefits of Putting You First

You will be better able to help others. Others will take you more seriously and you won’t feel stressed. In addition, you will have more control and improve your self-esteem.

How to Put You First

If you’re not careful you can become overwhelmed by demands that others place on you, and can find yourself on slippery slope as your responsibilities towards others increase.

If you’re constantly trying to please others and take on burden after burden, this can in turn result in a cycle that leads to even lower self esteem. A balance is essential between work commitments, family responsibilities, relationships and your “MY” time.


Where do you need “time” most for you momma? Please share below and how you plan to get there.. You never know who you are helping?



Tommie Nichole

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